So number two is on the
way! It has been interesting to me
the ways in which the pregnancy experience can shift so much from the first to
the second time. If you are or
have been in the same boat, I wonder if its similar for you….
YOU KNOW BEFORE THE PLUS SIGN
APPEARS
Before I was even four
weeks I knew I was pregnant. I was having crazy vivid dreams and bloating. I
was also a little nuts, well a lot of nuts, so much that my husband said “Should I just go to the drug store already and get a
test? You are obviously pregnant”. He had read my mind and the tests
confirmed it (though it took five tests and blood work to really convince him
through the shock).
HOW QUICKLY WE FORGET
After learning I was
pregnant with my first I was eating some fancy chocolate and read the label
aloud to my husband asking him what Kirsch was – he panicked “It’s booze, spit
it out! Rinse out your mouth!”. Fast forward to being pregnant with Number 2
and he surprises me with a bottle of my favourite red because he forgot I was
even pregnant “Oh well” he says “Guess I’ll have to
drink it all.” Thanks for taking one for the team Hun!
BEING PREGNANT WITH OUT ‘BEING ‘
PREGNANT
With my son, I was reading
every pregnancy app – every day – I knew the developmental stage and fruit
comparison of the fetus and the exact date I was at. I remember a friend
telling me with her pregnancy that it was ‘all she
thought about’. When I became pregnant I learned how all those mysteries
and questions quickly consumed all your thoughts and energies: What would they look like? What will it be like? How will
my body change adapt? What kind of
Mom will I be? I found this second time I already knew the answers – my
world could go beyond this mystery of life in me (not to mention chasing around
a one year old to distract me). I
felt like this time around I can just be pregnant without constantly ‘being’
pregnant.
THE BUMP APPEARS SOONER
I thought this was a crazy phenomenon that my bump
popped much sooner, it was nice to not have that prolonged ‘is she pregnant? or
bloated?’ stage. As my OBGYN put
it “the uterus has a great memory”
Here’s some pics comparing my bump in the two
pregnancies (first pregnancy on the left, this pregnancy on the right)
15 weeks with first pregnancy (on left) vs 13 weeks with second pregnancy (on right)
20 weeks
24 weeks
GIVE GOOGLE A BREAK
I didn’t find myself holding my breath for the
first trimester like the first time. I’ve been pregnant before – though it took
some time to get there and the delivery wasn’t picture perfect – I still have a
wonderful little kid to show my body’s reproductive capabilities. I feel like there less pressure on my body to prove
itself because I know what it can and can’t do. I know what is normal
with every cramp; ache and other weird thing that happens and I just take a hot
bath and crawl back into bed without staying up through the night googling
symptoms and worrying if something is wrong. YES HONEY, I DO NEED MORE CLOTHES!
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GET THIS BABY OUT OF ME….NOW!
After talking to other moms I learned that yes,
feeling like I am full term at only 6 months is normal. I went one day overdue with my son and
never felt anxious to ‘have this baby already!’ but at six months I am so sore
and achy in all of my joints and lower back, so much so that I’ll get up in the
middle of the night to have a hot bath. How will I
make it three more months?! When I think about it, the only part that
getting me through is knowing that every day is one more day in age difference
between the two kids (yes, I’m a little freaked out to have them so close in
age).
MY BODY WILL NEVER THE SAME
Yes, some lucky bitches mothers never
develop stretch marks – well I’ll tell you something I learned this time, your
previous stretch marks can get their own stretch marks! THAT IS A REAL FREAKING
THING! I can’t tell you how conflicted I feel about what I see in the mirror. This ‘vessel of life’ looks like a bloated zebra. However, I’ve decided to stick with a
good pushup bra, full midriff coverage and worry about this later.
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And the obvious one…..IT’S ANOTHER BABY
I am due July 11 – my son
will be 16 months then. No it
wasn’t planned. Yes I know how babies are made. It’s true I’ve made a mental
list of all the ways in which I will be losing sleep, having rational thinking
slowly slip away from me, and potentially becoming the mom who is drinking a
glass of wine at lunch while still in her robe. It is terrifying and I’d say my efforts and worries are more
about how to manage once the baby is here rather than it actually getting here.
If any of
you Moms have any advice on having two young babes (or know a good sale on
boxed wine) I’m all ears!!!















