Thursday, January 29, 2015

Feeding a Gluten and Dairy Free Toddler

When Lenayah was 4 months I started on a gluten and dairy free diet to help with her infant reflux (Esophagitis). It helped!
When she started solid foods we kept these restrictions and slowly introduced gluten and dairy back into her diet. She is now 2.5yr and can eat all foods. Focus on CAN and not WILL.

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In my recent meal planning shake down I found some sheets of meal plans I've held on to. Like this one I made for the dietitian, a two week meal list of foods I fed Lenayah. Maybe it'll help you if you have a GFDF child (abbreviating it sure makes me look like I know what I'm talking about, doesn't it!?)....

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Quinoa waffles (with chia seeds and hemp hearts)
GF cereal (with chia seeds and almond milk)
Fruit with hemp hearts
GF Pancakes (I bought premade GF pancake mixes) topped with peanut butter or maple syrup
Oatmeal (made with blueberries and agave)
Almond Pancakes (with maple syrup)
GF Toast (with PB)
Eggs and roasted potatoes (The Dad Special)

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Leftover breakfast
GF Crackers (with peanut butter)
Kale Chips (with nutritional yeast)
Smoothie (can add non-dairy protein powder, avocado, peanut butter for some extra creaminess)

Tuna melts (on GF bread)
Leftover dinner
Avocado, turkey meat, peas, pickles
Rice, salmon, peas
Chickpea, zucchini and tomato sauteed with coconut milk
Corn, rice, black beans, chicken

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GF Spaghetti & meat sauce
Sloppy Joes & corn (sometimes on a GF bun)
Chicken, green beans, potatoes
Chickpea cauliflower Marrakesh (a curried veggie bowl with rice)
Butter(less) chicken and rice
Braised chickpea and spinach in coconut milk
Steak, corn, potatoes, rice
Honey sesame chicken with rice
Cashew cream pasta
Turkey fried rice
Teriyaki salmon with rice and peas
Meatballs (or add potatoes for keftedes) with peas
Black bean burger patty
Thai chicken with broccoli on quinoa

The dietitian did give me some feedback on this list.  She wanted me to make sure and give her 'enriched' milk substitutes rather than almond milk. So I started her on Enriched rice milk til she was off a nighttime bottle. She also wanted me to make sure she was getting sufficient calcium in her diet. Other foods that would be great to add to this list (if your kid will eat them) are boiled eggs and tofu.

Check out my gluten free dairy free Pinterest board for all the recipes we used while eating GFDF

Follow Shawna Dovetail's board Dairy and Gluten Free Recipes on Pinterest.


Monday, January 19, 2015

What Type are You? [Enneagrams]

As you could tell by my recent posts I turned over a new leaf this January. Actually I climbed out the tree crossed the creek and went into the city!

Maybe it's cause I found my high school diaries (and Adult Shawna needs to go back in time and have a serious Chick-Talk to Teenage Shawna). Maybe it's cause I'm out of my final newborn stage and ready to get off my couch and out of my pajamas. Either way, something is different.
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As we have recently enacted some TV reduction I've been geeking out hard to podcasts. I heard a podcast called Confront Your Junk, it featured Leigh Kramer talking about a personality profiling called Enneagram and thought, who doesn't like a fun personality test. So I started looking into it.

What is the Enneagram?

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An ancient personality typing that looks like a ole hippie drew it up in the back of her used book store alongside her homemade chai tea and patchoulis of the world collection. 

But if you ask me, this is legit and has changed my life.

What is different about it?
We can do lots of tests based on our external behaviour (shy/outgoing, creative/analytical, etc.) and they are fine but we a) don't really learn much about ourselves, and b) have different results depending on who we are with or how we feel.  For example you may be more assertive and analytical at home then you are at work.

The Enneagram doesn't slot you into a box or colour. Sure you get a number but the personality typing looks a deeper. It is based on your motives, fears, and desires - all which are demonstrated by various behaviours depending on how 'healthy/secure' you are. It looks at the sum of who you are -  all the blind spots and 'bad habits' we have when feeling insecure. It also looks our strengths and unique abilities when we are feeling secure in who we are. This sliding scale of traits is called 'Levels of Development'.
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The way the Enneagram is designed
We all have a basic personality type (our number) but we also have personality components of the types beside us (called our wings). Sometimes leaning more to one side than the other. So if you are a Type 2 you also have traits of either a Type 1 or 3 or both.

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Then there are the lines that connect each type to two others. One line is your 'Direction of Integration'. When you are healthy and undergoing positive growth you will pick up the positive traits of this other type. The opposite is called 'Direction of Disintegration', when you are experiencing stress you will pick up the negative traits of this type.

How do you find your type?
Read through the nine types. Take some tests to narrow it down. Read the types some more. When you find your type it will just resonate with you.

I know the Enneagram it's not for everyone, but I've found it so valuable. It took me a while to pinpoint my type but as I read more and more (and listened to yet another podcast) it became really clear to me which type I was (I'm a nine by the way).

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As I learned more about being a nine. I started to reflect on how the levels of development were so true in my life. Things I brushed off as 'just a habit' or feelings, patterns and thoughts I try to conceal/ignore were brought into light. I had to own them.

It was mortifying. I could see it seep into my parenting, my marriage and my past.

It was also empowering because this normalized the range of who I am. There is so much guidance on how to use my traits as assets. How to acknowledge my strengths. How to relate to other types in my life.

I could go on and on about how it is changing my heart and mind, and there is so much more to say about the Enneagram - but I'll leave here.

If you find out your type and you want to chat it up drop me a message, comment, or Instagram and we can nerd out together. Cause I am 'charts on the fridge', 'books on order' in to using this in my life.

Monday, January 12, 2015

Getting A Life

Sometimes you feel that wave deep in your heart.  Little ripples sending urges into the intentions of your hands and the meandering of your thoughts.

You know change is going to happen. Exciting, transformative change. 

I feel it happening right now. And not just for me, but for those around me.

I've got some top shelf women in my life, both friends and family. They are passionate, they are persistant, they are dreaming big dreams and, most importantly, chasing those dreams - sometimes with kids in tow. 

I grin at them over tea and late night snacking. I want to hug them hard and tell them they kick ass and then grip their hands tight and run after their dreams with them. 

What I really need is to hold my candle up to theirs and get my sputter up to a good steady flicker.

After becoming a stay at home mom I nestled into the slot of 'homemaker' and found the simplest creative outlet I could, blogging. I can't say I'm ever bored. I have contentment in the day to day. I have hobbies and passions and five loads of laundry always waiting in my basement. But I don't have many dreams beyond not botching up marriage and motherhood and doing a handstand by age 40.

So, I did what most wives do, took an inopportune time to bombard my husband with unwelcome soul-probing Q&A on his dreams. After some sarcastic remarks he agreed to entertain a conversation about it.  So I made us some Old Fashioned Tom Collins. Got out the pen and paper and wrote down everything we could brainstorm before he figured out I was tricking him into a vision-planning session. 

We talked about the qualities we want our kids to have, things we want to do with our kids, what our own dreams and goals were around ourselves, our careers and our relationship with each kid. 

Stats say you are way more likely to actually do things when you write them down. I think achieving your goals is important (I mean, it is called a 'goal' not an 'it would be nice if').  What might be even more important is actually identifying them. I don't want to look back twenty years later and think I wasn't mindful of the days I had to teach and guide my kids. I want to be mindful of how I spend my days and how each week that goes by could be a drop in the bucket on who and where I want to be. Where do I want to be? (Other than doing a killer handstand with my World's Best Mom mug hosting coffee freshly made by my husband.)

My 'Dreamin Big' page is still a little light on the grit part but each day I have more to commit to paper. You could say I'm still brainstorming my dreams. A practice that should hopefully lead to the formal art of 'Getting A Life' and not just 'Living the Days'. 

So, if you are in for this ride with me, I'd love to hear what kinds of dreams you have for you and your family.  What kinds of questions do you think are important to ask when making goals or dreaming up big ideas?

Yours Truly, Shawna
Your Big-Dreamin Girlfriend With No Upper-Body-Strength (yet)

Saturday, January 3, 2015

The Habit of Consumption

If you are quiet at 4pm you can hear the chant of mothers everywhere telling their kids that they need to 'wait for dinner'. Snacking is a habit. One that can apparently be rapidly formed within a year of one's solid food career.

It was all the snack requests that got me thinking.

Something is happening, paraded into view by half eaten bananas and abandoned cheese strings. 

We have also re-rewatched single available seasons of many kids shows on Netflix. I've thrown out countless torn pages of half coloured cartoon characters. Things like maple syrup, chocolate almond milk, and potato chips have a running position on the weekly shopping list. 

Consume. Sleep(ha!). Shower(just kidding). Wake. Consume.

Consuming has become a habit. A consumer nation within my small little family. 

Being at home with two toddlers and a newborn, sometimes consuming is the simplest way to 'reward' my tired, drawn-out self. It is also how my husband and I 'unwind' with each other at the end of the day. Sadly, I see my kids learning to consume out of habit rather than need. I rarely deny their requests. If it makes my life easier while I try and nurse or rock a baby, then I just say yes. 

This year I want to consume more mindfully. Less auto-piloting to the pantry or having Netflix ask me if I'm 'still watching?' (to which I become irrationally offended and start telling off my Apple TV, 'yeah Netflix, I AM still watching Zaboomafoo! Don't you judge me!'). 

Sure, some cheddar, shiraz and eye balling Tim Riggins makes me feel good and helps me relax at the end of the day! But what makes me feel productive? Proud? Passionate? Those are things I feel like I'm missing, even in the small doses in which I can acquire them. 

Here is to making 2015 a year where I create things, simplify things, learn things, imagine things, do things - when I would normally default to consuming things in a dance with the minute hand on my clock. 

I'd love to hear some goals you have for this year.  

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

15 Signs You Might Be A Mom Martyr

From the day you change your personal occupation to full time “Mom,” you might feel instantly banished to the world of ‘boring and domesticated.’  The label ‘Mom’ (especially Stay at home Mom) also comes with the ‘ Least Interesting Person in the Room’ award.  
Society undermines the value of moms and we start believing it. Some of us think that if we can show how difficult the job is, if we let ourselves get buried under motherhood, we can show our family or society how valuable we are. We are those destined to fall into a hole we’ve dug ourselves and become Mom Martyrs.
I would know; I was one. I gave up my profession title, clean white shirts and a pay cheque and moved to a small town for my husband’s job so I could become a stay at home mom. I had two kids under two, and one of them was a LOT of work. All of these were decisions I was responsible for making, but I acted like a victim of them. I  became a Mom Martyr. You might not have recognized me though. Aside from being the least interesting person in the room, I was also the one donning a dirty housecoat, bed head and holding a cold stained coffee cup to my fake smile. All a visible homage to the under-appreciated sacrifices I was doling out for the cost of being a mom. 
Maybe you are a Mom Martyr like I was. Maybe your jaw is clenched and your shoulders are up to your ears. You feel compelled to show the thankless world how hard you are working at motherhood. 
Here are 15 signs you might be a MOM MARTYR:
1. You complain about how little sleep you get, giving a detailed analysis down to the hour to anyone who will listen. If nobody has told you, this is about as interesting as you retelling last night’s dream – people will  smile and nod but they are listening to the more exciting circus music in their head. 
2. You tell your spouse they can go do something away from the family and then hold a grudge that they are having more childless fun than you. If you can’t have hobbies and leisure time, neither should they.
3. You become the gatekeeper of how your family spends their free time and it usually involves your “honey, do…” list of chores and tasks rather than leisure and spontaneous activities.
4. You never get a baby sitter.
5. You do things for your kids they can do themselves or find yourself wishing they wouldn’t move to the ‘next stage’ because you love the dependence they have on you.
6. Your first reaction is to say NO to anything your kids or spouse want. You know you have done this too often when you learn they are hiding stuff from you.
7. When you do say YES you have a bad attitude about it. The double whammy of you pouting that you didn’t get your way and being a human vacuum for all enjoyment anyone else may be having.
8. You snivel about how you need a break but pile on the excuses when one is offered to you. Eventually people will stop offering.
9. You need two tow trailers worth of supplies and three days to mentally prepare for any family outing – which you are likely to suck all the fun out of anyway in an effort to control everything from the shirt you laid out for your kid to wear to the burger your husband shouldn’t be eating.
10. You turn your kids into your ‘job’ and are constantly assessing their current health status, milestone performance, sleep schedule, diet, etc. You get so pre-occupied with them that your social interactions become your chance to display the highlight reel of your kid’s newest accomplishments and expressing worry about a condition or illness they could have.
11. You are driven by ‘mom guilt’ and put the onus on your shoulders to ensure your immaculate home is full of paleo veggie bites and your kids are happy at all times – the most unrealistic goal a parent could ever have. Sometimes we think we feel guilt, but we have confused it with something else, perhaps the restless need to be constantly ‘performing.’
12. You put yourself last for all things, even the simple act of getting dressed in the morning or sitting to eat breakfast.
13. You deny yourself hobbies and put your dreams on hold. You think if you can’t be the woman you were before children then you have to be over-dedicated to being a mother. You don’t allow for an adaptation of the two and constantly put your passions on the back burner.
14. You silently criticize other moms for their ‘selfish’ decisions like going on a vacation or cooking frozen pizzas, they affirm that you are giving your all to make the healthiest, safest life for your family.
15. You criticize your spouse’s parenting or attempts to help out, but nag at him when he doesn’t read your mind for what ‘you’ want him to do next. 
It’s time to stop thinking nobody appreciates you. You don’t appreciate you. You are being a fun-sucking mombie and your whole family is either walking on egg shells around you or stopped giving into your pettiness.
It is true, motherhood is a hard job. An damn important job. A 24 hours, seven days a week, every-single day job. Why make a hard job harder? When we fall onto the sword of mom guilt, or let the mason jars of homemade almond milk topple out of our chevron-lined pantry and conk us on the head. Then we take these headwounds and show them as badges of honour. We are neither hero nor victim for pushing ourselves to dirty sweat pants, bleary eyes and passionless monotonous days. We think we are showing the world we can drain out all our minutes and efforts into motherhood and they will see a Super Mom. Yet, what they see is a calloused exterior on a tired hollow face framed by a furrowed anxious brow. 
You can’t take care of your family if you don’t take care of yourself first.
You can’t be a united front in parenting if you are in constant tension with your spouse.
You can’t possibly be any better by sacrificing even more.  
Eat the cookie, leave the crumbs. Say yes more.  Leave the house for coffee and smile… an honest smile.
This post first appeared on BLUNTmoms 

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